Your kid is crying after the game. What to say.
What to say when your younger kid is crying after a game. The script for the parking lot or the back seat.
What they're feeling
- · Overwhelmed. Their body doesn't know how to hold all of it yet.
- · Maybe embarrassed that others saw them cry.
- · Wanting comfort, not a lesson.
- · Needing to know you're not disappointed.
What to say (pick one)
- "Come here."
- "It's okay. I've got you."
- "You don't have to talk right now."
Then stop talking.
What not to say
- "Stop crying. It's just a game."
- "Big kids don't cry."
- "What are you even crying about? You played fine."
The rule
At this age, the feelings are the whole game. Don't skip past them.
If they bring it up
- · When they calm down, ask what happened. Keep it open.
- · Don't assume you know why they're crying. Let them tell you.
- · Food helps. Changing location helps. Don't force the conversation.
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When they cry after a game
- · Physical comfort first. Words second.
- · Don't explain their feelings back to them.
- · Let them eat something and settle before any talking.
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