After a mistake. What to say.
What to say right after your kid makes a visible mistake. The script that stops one moment from becoming a big deal.
What they're feeling
- · Mortified. Especially if people saw it.
- · Bracing for your reaction.
- · Maybe pulling back to avoid making another one.
- · Hoping everyone just moves on.
What to say (pick one)
- "Shake it off. Next play."
- "That happens to everyone. Keep going."
- "I've got you."
Then stop talking.
What not to say
- "What were you thinking?"
- "That cost the team."
- "Just don't do that again."
The rule
One mistake is just one moment. Don't let your reaction make it more than that.
If they bring it up
- · Let them say what happened before you say anything.
- · Ask what they would do differently. Don't tell them.
- · End the conversation on what they did well in that same game.
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After a mistake
- · Stay steady. Your face is the first thing they look for.
- · Move on quickly. Don't hold them in the moment.
- · Every player has this. It's not unique to your kid.
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