Before tryouts. What to say.
What to say in the days before tryouts. The script that keeps the anxiety manageable without pretending it doesn't exist.
What they're feeling
- · Nervous for days before it actually happens.
- · Comparing themselves to every kid on the team.
- · Wanting reassurance but not sure how to ask for it.
- · Picking up on your anxiety too.
What to say (pick one)
- "You've done the work. Go show what you can do."
- "Just play your game."
- "Whatever happens, I'm going to be proud of how you competed."
Then stop talking.
What not to say
- "You have to make this team."
- "Just don't do what you did at the last tryout."
- "I talked to the coach and I think you're in good shape."
The rule
Your job is to get them in the door calm. That's all.
If they bring it up
- · If they're nervous, say nerves mean it matters. That's okay.
- · Don't run through all the things they need to do well.
- · Short conversations are better than long ones this week.
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Before tryouts
- · Keep the routine normal. Sleep, food, no last-minute extra training.
- · One line of confidence. Not a pregame speech.
- · Your energy will transfer. Stay steady.
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